I know the past week has been tumultuous, intense, and confusing. Whatever side of the political saga you resonate with (or if you feel rather neutral about it all,) we inevitably feel the collective upheaval.
So today I want to share with you 3 tools to utilize to tend to your well-being, from which you can truly be a contributor to the healing and transformation of our planet.
Take conscious, intentional time to step away from technology and connect with the depth of your own breath. It is so easy right now to become entangled in the energy and opinions of others. This leaves us feeling confused and overwhelmed as we duplicate the unconscious feelings of those around us.
So every day, gift yourself a break from it all. Find a guided meditation on YouTube, get outside, lay flat on your back with your eyes closed and connect with your own essence.
Give your belly permission to soften and breath deeply into your own being. In just a few minutes of slow, conscious belly breathing your nervous system will begin to relax, enabling you to untangle from everything "out there" and connect with your own radiance.
2. IT'S OK TO FEEL WHAT YOU FEEL
When we are entangled with the energies of others we can lose connection with what we ourselves are feeling.
Taking time to breath deeply and consciously allows you to begin internally inquiring: what am I feeling?
Do you feel angry? Scared? Anxious? Excited? Hopeful? Exhausted? Hateful?
You have a right to feel what you feel.
AND, there is a huge difference between unconsciously feeling an intense emotion and projecting it outward via social media, road rage, or other avenues, VS. taking time to connect with your own energy, give yourself inner spaciousness through breath, and in that inner spaciousness acknowledging the aspect of your inner child feeling a certain way.
When we take it internally we untangle from the external battles we see being waged in abundance right now.
When we don't give ourselves time and space to internally acknowledge and nurture whatever may be arising we tend to externally blame, defend, and engage in conflicting opinions and dialogue with others.
3. IT'S OK FOR OTHERS TO FEEL WHAT THEY FEEL
When we connect internally with the innocence of our own heart and allow it to feel what it needs to feel, we are then able to meet others wherever they may be.
Now this is not necessarily easy, and it's important to remember that you don't have to like what others think, say or feel.
This past week I had a rather intense engagement with a woman through social media. She did not see eye to eye with some things I had posted, and lashed out. I could immediately sense that she was in a sate of immense pain and fear, and instead of sincerely acknowledging what she was feeling I found myself needing to justify and explain where I was coming from.
With each response I sent trying to justify and explain my viewpoint, she fired back with more intensity and pain.
After a few of these exchanges I recognized that in trying to explain and justify I was entangling in conflict, keeping the cycle of separation and disagreement going.
So I took time to go through steps 1 and 2 listed above. I slowed down, and recognized that the primary feeling arising within me was the need to be liked.
So I really sat with this aspect of my inner child that desperately wants everyone to like her. I took time to acknowledge her discomfort, her desire to please everyone, her desperation to have others understand and agree with her. I took time to let her know that I liked her, I enjoyed what she had to say, I loved her.
As I went through this process I found myself untangling from the conflict with this woman, untangling from the need to get her to understand where I was coming from so that she could like me.
And from that space I was able to reach out to her with genuine acknowledgment. "I apologize for getting wrapped up in the need to justify myself. While I can't pretend to know what you're going through I can sense your pain and fear, and how my words may have felt very dis-honoring to your authentic experience, and for that I am so sorry. I am so sorry for the pain and discomfort you are experiencing."
When I untangled from the external conflict and spent time with the innocence of my own heart, I was able to recognize that this woman was knee deep in some intense and scary emotions.
And when people are in that place they don't need to hear that everything is going to be ok, that they should feel hope or love, they simply need to be seen and heard and acknowledged exactly where they are.
FEELING IS HEALING
And right now we are being given the opportunity to feel intense things that may have long been suppressed.
When we take intentional time to nurture, acknowledge and love all aspects of our own hearts, we are able to see that peoples anger, fear, and hatred is not an attack on us, but simply them showing us the pain, trauma, and fear that they are in or experienced in the past and have no idea what to do with.
We can then be the one's to acknowledge their suppressed pain, to offer them empathy and compassion as they heal through emotional purging and release, to meet them where they are with tenderness and love.
I encourage you to give yourself permission to every day take even just 5-10 minutes to breathe deeply and connect with your own heart. Ask what you are feeling and honor whatever may need to be felt, expressed or released.
I love you,
P.S. Sometimes writing out what we are feeling can be extremely cathartic. So if you ever need or want to express what you are feeling, I would love to hear from you. I will be the safe space where you can express what you need to express and be met with compassion, tenderness and love.
I'm busy working on my blog posts. Watch this space!