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✨Are you ready to shift out of victimhood?✨
November 3, 2016
There is a common theme arising within the world, and I see it as a powerful opportunity for inner healing, growth and empowerment.
The primary invitation that seems to be arising is the call to shift out of a dependency on others - whether in looking to other people for advice, love, answers and encouragement, or in looking to the political realm for change or action - and instead claim your power to turn inward and be the one to offer the innocence of your own heart the words or actions it desires.
A few years ago I started to conduct a silent experiment with myself. I began to cultivate more awareness on my dependency and craving for other people to affirm, recognize, or compliment me, and from there payed close attention to my reaction.
I would observe myself working up into a state of neediness, feeling anxious and insecure, depending on the praise of others. And then I would receive that praise, either from a student, or my husband, and slowly realized that I had no capacity to really receive it.
The satisfaction was fleeting, and within seconds these needy aspects of my neglected inner child would resurface with even more intense cravings for external recognition.
This experiment led me to one of the most infuriating, lonely, disappointing, and liberating realizations of my life:
There isn't anyone or anything outside of you that can give you the words or actions that only you have the capacity to truly give yourself.
Every single person on this planet has their own unique make-up of experiences, perceptions, thoughts and opinions. They are doing the best they can do just to survive their own journey.
And since you have your own unique make-up, how could anyone outside of you every be able to truly know what you need?
Like I said, when this realization first really sank in I felt an overwhelming sense of disappointment and loneliness.
And yet, in the space of that realization, I recognized my capacity to be the one to offer the innocence of my heart the very words and actions that it desired.
This liberating awareness shifts you out of entanglement and dependency from others. You no longer have to wait around for the parent that never knew how to love you to offer you love, support and compassion, for you can be the parent to your own wounded heart.
You no longer have to wait for the person that hurt you to tell you that they're sorry. For you can be the one to acknowledge the parts of you that were hurt. You can be the one to express to her: I am so sorry for your pain. I am so sorry for the trauma you endured. I am so sorry. I am here for you now. What do you need from me?
You no longer have to wait for the "right" political candidate or global change. You can be the one to recognize what it is within the political realm or global scene that triggers you.
Is it anger at the lies and lack of honesty? Where in your own heart could you welcome in more honesty, and from there bless all beings with the courage to be honest?
Or is it a desire to see all beings treated equally? Where in your own heart are you segregating or suppressing certain aspects of yourself, naming it your "shadow," and judging it harshly? How could you offer more compassion for all aspects of your own humanity?
Looking outside of ourselves leads us to feel angry, helpless, disappointed, and overwhelmed.
So instead of draining our energy externally, what if you took time to turn inward, and mend the wounds of your own broken, traumatized, neglected heart by embracing your capacity to be the loving parent, friend, and supporter to all aspects of your being?
I have two invitations for you:
First, what are the words that you need to hear today? Take time to place your hands on your heart and offer those very words to your own heart.
Second, what triggers are arising for you in response to the political campaign? What is it that you are wanting to see? Take time to drop within and explore implementing these very words or actions. And from there offer those blessings to the world.
May all beings be blessed with the courage to speak truth and take responsibility for themselves. May all beings be blessed with the inner union of all fragmented aspects of self, loving all aspects of their humanity. May all being be blessed with ease and peace.
May all pain, separation, and trauma between the masculine and feminine, throughout time as well as within, be healed, transformed, and resolved, as never before, for the well being of all, that I am now. I am the light, the light I am.
I love you,
P.S. In the beginning of this journey I felt overwhelmed and lonely. Through that stage of my growth it was extremely beneficial to have loving, external support, someone to offer me a blueprint of sorts to follow back into loving all aspects of my heart. Having survived that journey I would love to now be the one to offer you guidance and support. I have created a structured map to assist you in mending your heart, in just 4 months. Interested? Simply reply to this e-mail and I can share all of the details with you.
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