Do you ever find yourself waiting for someone to pluck you off the streets, really see you, and offer you the job of a lifetime, tell you that you're the one they've been waiting for, or to give you the acknowledgment you've bee longing to hear?
I can't even begin to count the number of times I've entertain these fantasies. Waiting, waiting to be "scouted," for someone to come up to me and say "You're the one we've been looking for! You're so talented! So significant! Come, we have access to everything you desire - the book, the book tour, the public speaking opportunities, the wildly successful business, you just sit back and be yourself and we'll take care of everything else!"
Sadly, this has not yet happened, and I was reminded this past weekend the magnetic power we each contain within us to be the one to recognize, acknowledge, affirm, and love ourselves.
Are you waiting for someone to tell you the words you want to hear?
I was recently rock climbing with a friend, and at the end of each climb I felt myself waiting to hear words of acknowledgement.
And, at the end of each climb, crickets.
I started to stew. "Why aren't they telling me how incredible I am! Why aren't they affirming me? Why aren't they praising me? I'm praising and acknowledging them! Plus I'm doing so well!"
By the end I was quite grumpy, which of course was their fault. Their actions, or lack of, had caused me to be grumpy.
Other people cannot make you feel anything, you get to decide how you respond
A series of divine guidance gently led me to the clarity that I was blaming this individual for feeling grumpy. I blamed them for feeling insecure because they had not given me the praise I desired.
I was waiting for someone outside of me for affirmation.
In this clarity I remembered my capacity to offer my own hearts the very words I was desiring to hear.
And so I looked in the mirror, I placed my hands lovingly on my body, and I verbally expressed the words I had so desperately been wanting to hear:
You are so strong! I can't believe how well you're doing in such a short amount of time! You amaze me! You did such a great job climbing tonight! I love you!
And you know what? I could feel and see my sweet innocent inner child light up like the Fourth of July. Beaming in response to my praise. Twirling and laughing and overjoyed to be acknowledged by me.
I invite you to intentionally acknowledge yourself at least once today.
When you notice yourself giving your power away by waiting for external sources to see you, acknowledge you, or affirm you, pause, and remember your capacity to be the loving parent, friend, supporter, and lover to the innocence of your own heart.
What are the words you are wanting to hear? And how does it feel to be the one to offer those very words to the little girl that dwells within you?
As always, I see you, I acknowledge you, and I thank you for sharing this journey with me.
I'm busy working on my blog posts. Watch this space!